JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE JUDGING OTHERS

Weights and measures are standardised to prevent inaccurate estimations and discrepancies that can potentially lead to serious and ugly allegations of cheating and costly disputes. But do we standardise our perceptions or intelligence before judging others with credence?

Undoubtedly, none of us is absolutely perfect or absolutely imperfect, we are both. Each one of us carries an ever-varying mix of the good, the bad and the ugly, and our vanity of course.

How can we use an imperfect tool — our feeble mind, which is so fallible, gullible and whimsical, constantly flickering and wavering, and deeply characterized by our intrinsic beliefs and inherent biases, prejudices and stigmas — to judge the perfections or the imperfections of other humans? How often do we get our judgement wrong and how do we know that have got it right? We just don’t know! We may, however, love our delusion.

Humans share the same 99.9% DNA. In essence, we are just images of one another. We like to see in others what we carry within us, what we wish to see in them to validate and justify our imperfections. We choose to consciously turn a blind eye to those things in other people that threaten us or make us feel small or inadequate. The state of our internal world lends us perception. Our distorted perceptions and internal mess distort our judgement. Proverbially, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

Regular self-correction, therefore, involving an unbiased self-introspective process, is absolutely necessary for lending some degree of credibility to our judgement of other people. For this, we may try detaching our ego from our self on a daily basis, albeit for only a few moments, and then take a hard and sharp look at ourselves, unashamedly and unreservedly.

If we indulge in a regular self-introspective and self-cleansing process, we may possibly find ourselves becoming more humbled, softer and rounded-off, after discovering how limited and inadequate we actually are. We may even learn the art of laughing at ourselves, which is essential for gaining a true perception of the world and adapting ourselves tearlessly with other humans cohering with us on our beautiful planet.

Regular self-introspection may certainly also help us reap immense tangible and intangible benefits, health-wise and otherwise. We may be able to lead much more personal and collective peaceful lives, realised and responsible, and who knows what? We may even discover the insignificance of pearls and diamonds, gold and silver that allure us, corrupting our consciousness and fast turning our world into a perilously unsustainable and dangerous place.

… Bill K Koul [30 Oct 2022, Perth, Western Australia]

2 thoughts on “JUDGE YOURSELF BEFORE JUDGING OTHERS

  1. It is natural that we judge others because that’s what we see, our eyes and ears ‘look’ outwards. But before we ‘pronounce’ that judgment, either directly (which we don’t generally do, which is a good thing) or indirectly, e.g., by taking any action based on our ‘judgment’, it is useful and important to look inwards and think about how we ourselves are or would be, particularly under similar circumstances. We might find that we are not very different. Cheers and thanks for posting this very interesting and important piece.

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